45 Thoughts in Memory of Lisa

My blog has been silent for too long.

My brother’s daughter-in-law died very unexpectedly last week and it affected me quite profoundly. She was 36 years old. The same age that my husband Ed was diagnosed with cancer. This was different. I didn’t know Lisa well; we had met once or twice briefly and had exchanged yearly holiday cards with pictures of our children. This was so unexpected. My heart aches for my nephew and their daughter and I feel so helpless. I want to be able to take away the pain, but i know that only the passage of  time will do that. I am reminded once again how temporal this life is. We don’t know what tomorrow holds, and that just a phone call can change your life forever. Our time together is so very short – we must make the most of it.

Yeshua (Jesus) said, “I have come that you may have life and that you may have it more abundantly.” John 10:10

My prayer this holiday season is that you know this abundant life. That you make the most of it: Love passionately, forgive completely, and thank God for every day He gives us to be with friends, family, co-workers, neighbors…

Here’s an e-mail I recently received that says it better than I can

 45 Thoughts Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio

 My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

 1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past, so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood…. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you..

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive every one everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.


One Response to “45 Thoughts in Memory of Lisa”

  1. Janet Says:

    I am sorry about the loss in your family. She was way too young, what a tragedy, especially this time of year. Today, a year ago my sweet grandmother died, I have been thinking of her all morning, and so very thankful for her life and influence on me.
    Hey …. loved the LIST. I like #29 the best. I worry TOO MUCH about that, but shouldn’t … why should I care? Nothing I can do about it anyway.
    Have a wonderful Christmas week … I enjoy when you blog, THANKS!

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